The Freedom of Forgiveness

The Freedom of Forgiveness

When you are hurt by someone you care about, do you hold on to anger, bitterness, resentments or even thoughts of revenge–or do you embrace forgiveness and move forward?

Everyone has been hurt by another’s actions or words at one time or another. After all we are all infallible human beings, but we also will have to plead guilty to the pain we may have caused to others. Some of us carry deep wounds from our past that get triggered and infected by present circumstances. These wounds can open up and one may bleed emotionally. The expectations we had for someone have failed, we are then stumped and look at the present with eyes of the past. So, it may be a time to embrace the situation, look at it, reevaluate it as it is now, as well as what it was. It’s time to learn from this, healing your heart and soul with forgiveness for yourself as well as the person who failed you. If you don’t practice…I say that again PRACTICE forgiveness or your wounds may never heal, and you may be the one who pays dearly for it. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace joy, peace, love, hope, and gratitude. Forgiveness can lead you down an enriching path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.

Holding onto a grudge allows you to be swallowed up in the negativity and crowding out any of the positive feelings, thus you can’t enjoy the present moments. Depression and anger results, life loses its meaning or purpose, and you become at odds with your connection with others and your spiritual beliefs.

Forgiveness is a commitment to an individualized process of change. To move from suffering to forgiveness you might recognize the value of forgiving, its freedom, and how it may improve your life. Identify what needs healing and who needs to be forgiven and for what. Choose to forgive the person who has offended you. Move from the role of victim to overcomer. It is all a process, sometimes short, other times not. But keep on practicing forgiveness it will set you free!

Remember the story of the Hatfields and the McCoys? It went on for years as the bloodiest family feud in history. Many people died and the unforgiveness was traumatic for all. God entered into this picture and family, stopping the insanity and granting restoration, salvation and healing to all involved and to future generations. The story of the feuding Hatfields and McCoys ends with a treaty, a handshake, and a newly forged kinship between both families. Where one story of vengeance and unforgiveness ends, a new story of forgiveness and brotherhood begins.


Relationships Are Sacred

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Relationships are learned and nurtured at the beginning of life…from the womb to the cradle. As we grow, we begin to make our own decisions about how to form relationships based from our life’s patterns and learned behaviors. We all have unloaded issues that were filtered through our childish thinking and emotions. We all carry this baggage from generations past into our present ones. This “baggage” interferes with the emotional communication and deep connection of some of our relationships.

Relationships are a dance, do we “catch” the rhythm or not? We cannot choose some of our relationships, but those we can; choose wisely. Since we all live in a broken world, we are taking our brokenness into our relationships. We need to become brave enough to share that brokenness and heal the emotional distance that sometimes develops.

The greatest gift you can ever give is your honest self. not to hurt others, but to help heal with our love. You bring all you ever were and are to any relationship you have today. Oftentimes we expect others to heal our brokenness and make us happy. How can they? When one doesn’t work, we move on to the next…we keep looking in the wrong places. We need to take responsibility for our own part in all relationships. We must give up blaming others for our unhappiness and look within and to our God to heal our heart and soul. What are the obstacles that interfere with the closeness? Our “stinking “thinking and faulty emotions may facilitate our problems.

We all have personal differences, that is what makes us human. Stop comparing! We then need to learn from these differences to enhance the connection. Let us develop the attitude of curiosity instead of judging others for their faults, and deal with the “walls” that have to be broken down, in order to connect to develop trust, truth, and emotional change that enhances growth.

It’s time to face the reality of who we are, bottom line “GUT LEVEL HONESTY”; first with our God, ourself, and then with others with LOVE. Listen with our heart, step into the other person’s shoes, that is caring, And think before speaking, especially if you are angry. What is your part in the emotion impact as you attempt to tear someone else down? It’s not what happens to us that matters, it’s how we deal with it…Rise above it.

The relationships we have are our gifts from God and all of them make us who we are. Think about that. We can learn something about ourselves from all of them.

With love from a caring heart,