When you are hurt by someone you care about, do you hold on to anger, bitterness, resentments or even thoughts of revenge–or do you embrace forgiveness and move forward?
Everyone has been hurt by another’s actions or words at one time or another. After all we are all infallible human beings, but we also will have to plead guilty to the pain we may have caused to others. Some of us carry deep wounds from our past that get triggered and infected by present circumstances. These wounds can open up and one may bleed emotionally. The expectations we had for someone have failed, we are then stumped and look at the present with eyes of the past. So, it may be a time to embrace the situation, look at it, reevaluate it as it is now, as well as what it was. It’s time to learn from this, healing your heart and soul with forgiveness for yourself as well as the person who failed you. If you don’t practice…I say that again PRACTICE forgiveness or your wounds may never heal, and you may be the one who pays dearly for it. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace joy, peace, love, hope, and gratitude. Forgiveness can lead you down an enriching path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.
Holding onto a grudge allows you to be swallowed up in the negativity and crowding out any of the positive feelings, thus you can’t enjoy the present moments. Depression and anger results, life loses its meaning or purpose, and you become at odds with your connection with others and your spiritual beliefs.
Forgiveness is a commitment to an individualized process of change. To move from suffering to forgiveness you might recognize the value of forgiving, its freedom, and how it may improve your life. Identify what needs healing and who needs to be forgiven and for what. Choose to forgive the person who has offended you. Move from the role of victim to overcomer. It is all a process, sometimes short, other times not. But keep on practicing forgiveness it will set you free!
Remember the story of the Hatfields and the McCoys? It went on for years as the bloodiest family feud in history. Many people died and the unforgiveness was traumatic for all. God entered into this picture and family, stopping the insanity and granting restoration, salvation and healing to all involved and to future generations. The story of the feuding Hatfields and McCoys ends with a treaty, a handshake, and a newly forged kinship between both families. Where one story of vengeance and unforgiveness ends, a new story of forgiveness and brotherhood begins.